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Lesson 1: Recognize what can and cannot be changed in your children.
Lesson 2: Aim to meaningfully challenge your children, not bore them or overwhelm them.
Lesson 3: Teach children that the main lmitation on what they can do is what they tell themselves they can't do.
Lesson 4 : Remember that it is more important that children learn what questions to ask, and how to ask them, than that they learn what the answers to the questions are.
Lesson 5: Help children find what really excites them, remembering that it may not be what really excites you or what you wish would really excite them.
Lesson 6: Encourage children to take sensible intellectual risks.
Lesson 7: teach children to take responsibility for themselves- both for their success and their failures.
Lesson 8: Teach children how to delay gratification- to be able to wait for rewards.
Lesson 9: Teach children to put themselves into another's place.
Lesson 10: Remember that it is not the amount of money you sepnd on your child that matters, but rather the quality of your interactions with your child and the nature of their experiences.
The 10 Lessons were put together by Wendy Williams from Cornell University and and Robert Sternberg from Yale, and appear in The Handbook of Parenting, 2nd Edition, edited by Marc. H. Bornstein, Lawrence Erlbaum Assoc. Publishers, 2003.
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